Over the years, and I'm strictly speaking from experience, I have seen a lot of my good friends depressed, dejected and even upset by their personal relationships with the opposite sex. Now in this context, when I say experience, I mean what I learnt from their mishaps and unfortunate turn of events. And when they have been disheartened by their counterpart, they start feeling dull and miserable which is normal human behaviour. This is how we express ourselves, the way we act is influenced by what we feel or what we have seen within our environment or even beyond it in some cases.I consider myself a good listener but this does not imply that I may also be good in offering legitimate or appropriate advice. That said, when a friend of mine came to talk to me about the hardships he was facing in his relationship, a notion came to my mind. Why get depressed ?? What is the point of getting sad, dull and low ?? Now, your thinking this idiot is just rambling on and I better hit the close button.
What I would do...
If that person meant a lot to me, I would not get depressed or sulk day in day out. I would turn gay. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating homosexuality or any behaviour of that sort (Family & Friends... Relax, it's not what you think...). Show the world how hurt you were that you had to take this step. It's not revenge, its merely expressing your distress and how troubled your were that you had to march on to the gay-side of life. Turning into a fruit-cake (No disrespect towards anyone) would show people how much the counterpart meant to you and to what extreme's you may go to express inner feelings.
As I said, am a good listener but my advice could raise a few eyebrows.
Sleuth (2007)
Now if I was able to make a significant change in your thinking, I would strongly recommend you watch this re-make from 1972. Sleuth stars Micheal Caine and Jude Law. Caine is an aging writer who confronts an aspiring actor, Jude Law, who has lured his wife away. The movie is crude with respect to the dialogues and language. Both men take part in a game of deceit and trickery. Mind games turn into seduction, and one man prevails in his overtures. Similar concept to what I had been debating, but not quite.Just to inform all the women out there, no woman has broken my heart yet... ;)
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7 comments:
Relationships are complicated. Understanding them difficult. Women impossible to understand. Men live by reason and logic, unaffected by emotions. Women, use their hearts in situations and everyday life. what can I say, I understand , yet I dont, I have learnt, yet not seen much. It's difficult and complicated. Hope you dont loose your ground and standing in a rough relationship. That's why family and friends are ideal to fall back on. Think, dont feel!! you'll know if he or she is the one.
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To counter your argument though, I dont think going gay is the answer. For the simple reason that going gay isnt like jacking off. You have to have a partner if youre gay. And if your male partner really loves you, then you are essentially playing a very dirty game just to get back at your ex.
However, if you really love your gay-mate back, then youve essentially gotten over the woman you loved!
So in my mind, the best solution to the problem would be to abstain from sex completely. Even though you want it sooooooo bad!!
What do you think?
And i dont agree with mohammad who says that men use reason and logic while women use their hearts.
I often follow my heart whilst making decisions and know many women who are beautifully logical, rational and coherent.
Faiz, I understand where your coming from on this... I said go gay, if the person has left you who you believed you could not live without... No revenge, nothing to get at your ex. But simply expressing how hurt you were.
Going gay is not easy, but if you succeed (Hopefully Never..) then you've moved on. I simply presented this notion as I've seen many of my good friends (;)) hurt real bad and who couldn't move on. It's not for every relationship you ever had and you turn gay every other day.
True, not all men are logical. I can name at least 15 men who have no logic what so ever. Some women are exceptionally smarter and way more logical than most of us.
Faiz youve missed the point completely!! I think you migth be going thru your first heartache... haha! looks like you are in the first stages of falling and love and loosing it. Dude. Plz! realize that there is more to life than bickering about what each of us said..either about going gay, or using your heart...the point is ...GROW UP!!
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